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Be yourself. It’s something we’ve heard from our parents, friends, teachers, musicians, and brands. And there’s a very good reason for it, too. We want to be seen, feel heard and understood. The best way to achieve that is to be authentic. Just as we don’t enjoy the company of those who go against their word, or with whom we feel like we’re walking on eggshells in every interaction, we strive to be true to ourselves.
Authenticity is key in forging strong, meaningful relationships. When people act authentically, they create an environment of trust and empathy, which forms the foundation for deep and lasting connections.
Research in social psychology supports the importance of authenticity, showing that it enhances both personal well-being and interpersonal relationships. A study by two social psychologists found that individuals who exhibit authentic behavior experience higher levels of self-esteem and life satisfaction. This, in turn, positively impacts their ability to connect with others genuinely.
Why People Struggle with Authenticity
Despite the benefits, many people struggle to be their authentic selves. Fear of rejection and the desire for social acceptance often compel individuals to present a version of themselves they believe will be more acceptable to others.
These fears and doubts lead people to shape people’s perception of them through what is known as self-presentation tactics, often at the expense of their authenticity. Professors Leary and Kowalski found that people typically do this to achieve a certain goal. It could be to gain the favor of a specific individual, hide their insecurities, or even to get a job.
Moreover, societal and cultural pressures can also play a significant role. In environments where certain behaviors, appearances, or opinions are more valued, individuals may feel compelled to conform, even if it means suppressing their true selves. This fear of being shunned or judged can lead to fraudulent behavior, which ultimately undermines genuine connections.
Practical Insights from Garry Ridge
There are ways to come back from fraudulent behavior by practicing authenticity. Garry Ridge, former Chairman of the Board and CEO of WD-40, shared valuable insights on authenticity during Covve’s Connection Crew Masterclass.
Garry emphasized the importance of aligning one’s actions with core values through a reflective exercise. He suggested creating a list of ideal behaviors, such as being grateful, caring, empathetic, and a good listener. This list serves as a personal compass, guiding individuals toward their aspirational selves.
He practices what he preaches by regularly reviewing his list and integrating these traits into his daily interactions. His mantra, “throwing sunshine, not a shadow,” encapsulates his philosophy of positivity and constructive engagement. By keeping these traits visible—through screen lock reminders, notes on a computer monitor, or a notebook—individuals can ensure they are consistently presenting their best selves. This practice not only enhances personal growth but also fosters authentic connections with others.
Leveraging Personal CRM Apps for Authentic Connections
Today, there always seems to be the right technological tools, or copilots, to assist us in pursuing and achieving our goals. In relationship building, pCRM (personal Contact Relationship Management) companions offer a practical solution for maintaining and nurturing authentic relationships.
These apps, like Covve, help users track interactions, set reminders for follow-ups, and reflect on communications, ensuring that every engagement remains genuine and thoughtful. Behavioral research supports the effectiveness of these tools. For instance, a study from the University of Bath highlights that regular reflection on personal values and interactions can significantly improve ethical behavior and empathy in professional settings.
Using a pCRM app allows individuals to systematically cultivate authenticity in their relationships. By noting key details about interactions and setting reminders for meaningful follow-ups, users can ensure they are consistently engaging with others in a genuine manner.
The structured nature of CRM apps provides a clear record of past interactions, allowing individuals to build on previous conversations and show a deepened understanding and care for the people in their network.
Authenticity is a powerful tool in building and maintaining meaningful relationships. By being true to oneself and aligning actions with core values, individuals create an environment of trust and empathy that fosters deep connections. Despite fears of rejection or societal pressures, embracing authenticity ultimately leads to more fulfilling relationships.
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Written on 19 Jul 2024.
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